Do you Play Your Words Right?

There is no novelty in me saying that words are very powerful. Likewise, there is no secret too in saying that if words are used correctly, they can uplift, inspire, and nourish souls: but if they spread a streak of negativity, they tend to tear everything apart. Where positive words have a soothing power, negative words have a terrifying one.

To date, I have seen people lacking the capacity of being mindful with their selection of words when talking to others. There exists a thin line between being humorous and insulting. One should be mindful of what is coming out of ones mouth. Your telling someone that they look weak or chubby or dark or shabby won’t bring any good to them but yes, will harness negativity for sure. What you’re doing is trying to impose that the other person is not at his best. This will yield nothing but negativity, again.

Body shaming is ubiquitous. The commentary can vary from a person’s size, age, hair, complexion, clothes, food choices, or aptitude. The human body and appearance are not constant. We are all aging every day and aging carries its baggage along, sometimes one is physically ill and sometimes not well psychologically. Splattering someone with not so uplifting words doesn’t show your concern for them rather is like adding insult to injury. Even if someone is in bad health, I would never favor words that will put them more down, I would use words that would raise their spirits. Your physicality is something that is not in your own hands. Use words wisely, trust me everyone is trying and doing their best at a certain moment or time frame. Extend empathy and compassion. Be kind and offer good words. Whatever you say resonates in your own body too, not always others. We sometimes are not conscious of what scary side of ourselves we are exposing people to. Be a solace bearer by using words that generate a bigger energetic response in your body when you hear them for yourself too. It’s time to get rid of these clichéd statements because it spreads sheer negativity. And negativity is like a big black hole that drags everything surrounding it, in it.

Some of us are in a habit of using the same negative statements over and over again, that’s because their repetition has got them imprinted in our brains and our brain shows no resistance to them. Our brain always searches for patterns and consistency as a way to make sense of the world around us. Just like after burning a few times, we learn to know that fire always burns, repetition of negative words drills the message into our consciousness that they are always right. In the same way, your brain gets hold of the pattern of the good words if you repeat them. Hence, your brain searches for the pattern of positive words whenever you meet anyone irrespective of in which shape you find them. Your brain will find to address goodness even in the little good that it sees, instead of finding flaws in the best offered. It’s how you train your brain to look for positivity. Train your brains to work like that.

I always advocate the fact that change comes from within. You can’t just expect things from others, you have to be a torchbearer sometimes to change something that is rotting the otherwise healthy system. You have to break the cycle sometimes.

Always think, gather and then speak. Don’t just throw the ugliness. Practice good words. Words that uplift others at a physical and psychological level. Remember! Whatever you throw at others always comes back to you. So be wise, be a source that spreads positivity, that cures and not hurts, that constructs and not destruct, that inspires and not despise. There is already so much cynicism around.

So, do you offer words that are healing to the bones?

~ QuratulAin Hamza